I was at lunch one day with a girlfriend at a restaurant and overheard some ladies at an adjoining table. What I heard was astonishing! Giggling and laughing, one said basically “the kids always come first." And then laugh about where their spouses fall on the list. "If you asked me what the breakdown was, I would say my children, then my girlfriends, and finally my husband. But…don’t tell him that because he doesn’t know it.” And then they laugh hysterically like it’s all a big joke.
I bet her husband‘s breakdown is probably similar, “My children, my girlfriends and then my wife….but don’t tell her because she doesn’t know it because she’s too busy focusing on her kids, her friends and herself”.
Marriage isn’t a joke. If you put your spouse last; it’s a tragic and sad affair.
My husband Jim and I have been married for over 16 years. Like you, our lives are impossibly busy. Like you, we love our kids (our four dogs). Our marriage provides the foundation for everything that we’ve built together. It isn’t a joke. It’s something we work hard at and are tremendously proud of achieving. I want it to last a lifetime, which is why I treat it accordingly. If you stop and think about it, it’s the way it should be.
You should put your marriage first and here is why: