When I’m interviewing a prospective client who is finally ready to get back into the dating game after suffering through one failed relationship after another, what do they ask me?
“What is the perfect dating website for me?”
Now I’m not against finding your Mr. Right (or Mrs. Right) through an on-line dating site, I actually found my honey through Match.com. But what gets my blood to boil is that my potential client is repeating the same behavior that she’s repeated over and over these last three relationships that have all ended in dismal failure. Didn’t you get that memo, “you keep doing what you do, you’ll continue to get what you got!”. You need to change you’re approach before you step into another pile of bad relationship do-do!
I’ve found that most people will spend much more time planing a vacation then plan on choosing the right person that they’ll spend their life with! Think about that statement. That’s very sobering that we put more emphasis on planning one or two weeks away from home then planning on who will be our bed partner, life partner, possible co-parent and soulmate for your whole lifetime!
Here are the simple steps to prepare you for your next and hopefully last love at last:
- Be sure you love and know yourself first. Yes you’re looking for love from a future partner but shouldn’t they be connected to someone who comes into this relationship emotionally whole?
- Be clear what you wish for yourself. Sometimes we get so focused on the outer attributes then in the inner make up. Don’t miss all the important categories of life that complete your love design.
- Don’t rush to the alter. Yes if you invest into hiring a love relationship coach, time and effort into outlining who you want, don’t ruin it by putting on your blinders and going full speed ahead to tie the knot. Give yourself the gift of time and observation. You’re not going to fix him or her to fit your ideal. Determine what is acceptable in that person and what is determined a “deal breaker!”